Free Seminar: AT EASE™ – Fort Lauderdale, FL 9/20 or 9/21

Free AT EASE Learning™ Seminar

Presented by: Eric Hamblen of PACE Place
www.paceplace.org

The SAME seminar will be presented twice:

Friday, September 20, 2013, 6:30 – 9 pm

Saturday, SEPTEMBER 21, 2013, 5:30 – 8 PM

Location:

Nova Southeastern University
Alvin Sherman Library
Room 4009, 4th Floor
3100 Ray Ferrero Jr. Boulevard
Fort Lauderdale, FL 33314

The parking fee is $1 per hour.

This is a FREE seminar, but space is limited. Please register in advance.

Register

 

About The Seminar

Eric Hamblen is one of the founders of Project PACE,

Inc. and PACE Place in Oregon. Eric will present

information on how to understand challenging behaviors

through the filter of emotional regulation. This seminar

will be appropriate for parents and professionals who are

interacting with individuals of all ages and all skill levels

with diagnoses of developmental delays that affect social

learning (e.g., Autism Spectrum Disorders, Asperger’s

Syndrome, ADD, ADHD, NVLD, PDD-NOS).

 

Participants will learn the AT EASETM Parenting &

Learning Model, which guides the parent to generate

strategies and a style of engagement that leads to

increased success for the child and the family. The AT

EASETM Parenting & Learning Model, developed by the

PACE Place professionals, is emerging as a cutting edge

paradigm that helps parents understand the emotional

forces that drive behavior. The AT EASETM Parenting

& Learning Model empowers parents to develop creative

problem-solving strategies and a creative parenting style

that leads to a higher quality of life for all members of

the family. There is a focus on how to transfer the

success of the professionals to the parents.

 

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Family Targets

Typical Family Targets

 

Before each family’s visit, we ask them to describe the top five priorities they

would like to think about, discuss, and work on during their week at PACE

Place. Thus, the family drives the week’s target areas with our guidance and

suggestions. We approach each target with the belief that we can make an

improvement in every challenge presented to us by the family within the week;

each family returns with answers on how to live a higher quality of life. We

have listed below real examples of priorities that previous PACE Place

families have composed and that we have addressed over the course of a

week at PACE Place.

Make that list ! Think long and hard about what problems you want so solve –

what makes you cry, what makes you frustrated, what halts your day. Carolyn,

NV (Parent)

 

Please click here to read more comments from previous PACE Place families.

Family Life Targets

 

I must get a babysitter to go shopping or wait until the evening when my

husband is home. My kids run off or throw tantrums when I can’t buy them

everything they want. It would be amazing to be able to go grocery shopping

with the kids and not have a break-down myself.

 

Help us learn to balance our son’s needs within the context of the entire family’

s needs.

 

My daughter cannot be convinced to do anything thing the family is doing. If it

is her idea…fine. If it is not her idea…we can’t do it.

 

Our son will not stay with us while in public places (the grocery store, parking

lot, and, playground). If we don’t watch him constantly, he will wander off. This

is extremely stressful. He exhibits no fear when he cannot find us.

 

Emotional Targets

 

My son has great difficulty expressing his emotions in a socially appropriate

way. We have major melt downs when I try to help him express himself.

 

My son/daughter is terrified of ______. Can we please work on this?

 

(Many of our clients at PACE Place have extraordinary fears which we have

helped families address. Some specific fears have included: balloons, hair

cuts, escalators, crossing streets, strangers, Koosh balls, dogs, elevators,

black holes).

 

He over-reacts to small mistakes or accidents. He needs assistance with

emotional regulation.

 

Behavior Management Targets

 

Our children (both with ASD) are manipulating and controlling. They each

think that it is “my way or the highway.” Of course, with BOTH of them thinking

this way there is a lot of fighting and screaming at our house.

 

Help us with our kid’s quick temper, bossiness, and frustration.

 

Oh my gosh, my son is bossy. It is so hurtful that he speaks to me so rudely

and doesn’t care that he hurts my feelings.

 

Our child has no impulse control. If he wants something, he grabs for it and

demands it and will not take no for an answer.

 

Targets Related to Siblings

 

Please help us with interactions between all of our kids (one ASD kid, 2 NT

kids).

 

Please help my two boys (both ASD) learn to play with each other and enjoy

each other.

 

My son needs tools to use when his little brother is “bugging” him.

 

I hope to get assistance on how to forge a meaningful relationship between

my son (ASD) and his brother.

 

My (NT) son copies the bad behaviors of my ASD son. What should I do?

 

Targets Related To Interaction with Peers

 

Help us build confidence in our son to engage with his peers.

 

He is so inflexible and so easily frustrated when playing with kids. He needs

to work on this before he gets kicked out of school.

 

Targets for the Learning Environment

 

My son is a perfectionist. He needs strategies for coping with failure and

frustration.

 

My son must learn to cope with frustration so that he can actually learn from

frustrating experiences rather than fall apart.

 

My son doesn’t know how to get started on a project or how to prioritize when

there are several tasks to be completed. Please help us with this.

 

How will my son ever learn to stay on task at school, for chores, during a

conversation at the table?

 

We are considering home-schooling. We look forward to your suggestions.

 

Self-Care Targets

 

I know that you hear this all of the time, but seriously I have the pickiest eater

on the planet. He will NOT eat anything new. Even the “acceptable” foods are

very specific (only certain brand of hot dog, certain shape of cookie). I’m

worried about his nutrition.

 

Our child is largely dependent on us to perform all self-care tasks (brushing

teeth, getting dressed). I KNOW that she is quite capable of doing most of

these tasks herself, but she refuses.

 

Language/Communication Targets

 

My son never initiates a conversation. He’ll answer my questions, but never

add anything beyond that. How do I get into his head? I would love to know

what he is thinking about? What is his perspective?

 

How do I stop my son’s use of repetitive talk? He has a very small repertoire

of favorite topics and I am sick of talking about these few things.

 

How do I stop my daughter from making inappropriate comments?

 

My son does not use communicative gestures and doesn’t understand

communicative gestures.

 

Play Targets

 

My son perseverates on trains, especially when stressed out. Can he ever

learn to enjoy something else?

 

My son becomes fixated on anything with numbers (microwave, clock, page

numbers) and misses the other interesting things in his environment.

 

My son is not passionate about anything. How do I encourage him to explore

and become interested in ANYTHING?

 

If I leave him unattended, he will destroy things or get into danger. We want to

work on appropriate play skills.

Readiness Checklist

When is the ‘right’ time to visit PACE Place?

We have worked with families at different stages of development with a variety of
diagnoses.  We have worked with families with children under two years of age
and we have worked with families of teenagers and young adults.  The children
we have seen have diagnoses of one or more of the following:  Autism Spectrum
Disorder (ASD), Asperger’s Syndrome, Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), Attention
Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD),
Pervasive Developmental Disorder-Not Otherwise Specified (PDD-NOS), Non-
Verbal Learning Disorder (NVLD), Sensory-Integration Disorder, Oppositional
Defiant Disorder (ODD), Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Reactive
Attachment Disorder (RAD), Anxiety Disorders, severe to moderate speech and
language disorders, hyperlexia, seizure disorders, mood disorders, severe to
moderate food allergies, eating disorders, personality disorders, attachment
disorders, and non-specific delays in development.  We have worked with home-
schooled children and we have worked with children who attend public and
private schools.  

Parents commonly state, “We want a better life for children and for us.”   “We want
life to feel less like work, and more like life.”   Families who are considering a trip
to PACE Place can ask themselves these questions to help determine if they are
ready for the PACE Place Immersion Model.  We do not have a scale by which you
can gauge your responses to the questions below to determine whether or not
PACE Place is right for you.  Only you can determine if your answers to these
questions would make a PACE Place Immersion experience worthwhile.  If you
would like to contact a family who has attended the PACE Place Immersion
Model, please contact us at kcalouri@paceplace.org.  Provide a brief description
of your child and family and we will do our best to match you with a family who
shares your profile.

  1. Does a diagnosis run your family dynamic?
  2. When someone asks you to “tell me about your family” how far into your
    description do you get before you mention a family member’s diagnosis?
  3. Do you feel like you just don’t understand your child?
  4. Do you feel like you are doing all the work and getting none of the payoff?  
  5. Does a “good” day depend on what kind of report you get about your child?
  6. Do you feel like other people can connect with your child more intimately
    than you can?
  7. Are you prepared to challenge every limitation you believe about your
    child?
  8. Are you looking for a different way to think about your child’s difficult
    behaviors?
  9. Does it feel like you spend an inordinate amount of time waiting for your
    child?
  10. Do you feel like other people get to enjoy the “fun” side of your child but
    you get deal with giving him medicine, haircuts, getting dressed, and
    generally dealing with keeping his body healthy?
  11. Do you feel like you need to plan every detail of your child’s development?
    Otherwise, he won’t learn it.
  12. Do you feel like your child’s unique course of development has led you to
    become a different kind of parent than what you had envisioned?
  13. Are you ready to redefine what is important to you and your family?   
  14. Do weekends with your family leave you feeling refreshed and re-charged?
  15. Do you look forward to eating dinner together as a family?
  16. Do you look forward to spending a long weekend with your family?
  17. Do you wish you could be more spontaneous with your family?
  18. Do you look forward to running errands with your children?
  19. Are you tired of listening to the same song on the car stereo for the
    thousandth time?
  20. Do people tell you that your child is “intelligent” but can’t access it?
  21. Are there situations you avoid because of your child’s diagnosis?
  22. Do you feel like you are dealing with “a diagnosis” when you’d rather be
    raising your child?
  23. Do you feel like your family’s identity is defined by a diagnosis?
  24. Do you feel like your child’s diagnosis has isolated your family?
  25. Are you worried that you are not the parent you wanted to be?
  26. Do you feel over-supported by your community? (e.g., your son has ASD,
    here is what he qualifies for…)
  27. Do you feel under-supported by your community?
  28. Does it feel like you are your child’s therapist first, and parent second?
  29. Do you feel like you have nothing in common with your own child?
  30. Does your child share his/her experiences with you?
  31. Does your child care about your experiences?
  32. Does your child look to you for information when she/he is unsure or
    confused?
  33. Does your child coordinate his/her actions with yours?
  34. What percentage of your conversations revolve around a diagnosis?
  35. When is the last time you were able to take time for yourself without
    feeling guilty?
  36. Do you feel like a competent parent?
  37. Do you want to learn more about development and how it directly relates
    to your child?
  38. Does opening up your family life for a week to trained professionals seem
    like an environment you could learn from?
  39. Do you learn well from hands on experiences while seasoned
    professionals provide feedback in real time?

Life Style Approach

PACE Place does not teach a program.  PACE Place teaches a life-style.

Parent-led intervention is the foundation of the family-centered model of PACE.
Guiding families within a home environment and within the community, focusing
on “real-life situations,” allows PACE Place to develop strategies that empower
parents.  The PACE professionals are no longer solely in clinical settings,
removed from the real challenges families face.  They now have experience
sitting with families in restaurants, struggling with kids in the barber’s chair, and
facing tantrums at the zoo.  Despite training in child development, there is no
education like hands-on experience.   It is our goal to empower parents to be the
primary force in their child’s development.  Then parents will be able to share
their expertise of their own child with their support systems.  It is our goal to
support families as they enhance their relationships with each other.   

PACE Place does not provide a program for your child’s development.  We
provide guidance to develop your child’s desire and ability to create and
maintain relationships that will last a lifetime.   Our main goal is for your life and
your child’s life to become easier and more rewarding.  An empowered life is a
fulfilling life.  Empowerment is not an epiphany.  Empowerment is a gradual
process that builds momentum as it grows.  That is why our program is one
week in length.  A sense of lifelong empowerment comes from close and
trusting relationships.  That is why we have reduced access to technology.
Empowerment for men and women can take different courses.  That is why we
have men and women on our staff.  Opportunities for empowerment do not
follow an hourly schedule.   That is why we spend five hours a day with your
family.  Empowerment does not come from being told what to do. That is why we
start the week with your family’s uniquely created priority list.   Empowerment
comes from taking risks while staying safe.  That is why we spend so much time
with you and your family creating experiences.

PACE Place works because:

  • We empower parents to regain the primary role in the growth and
    development of their child and their family.  
  • We support and guide families, in practical everyday situations, as they
    develop and grow the relationships within their family.
  • We guide the parent-child relationship using typical human development
    as our guide.
  • We guide interactions that create neurological change within the context
    of your family’s everyday relationships.
  • We help families recognize which experiences are related to a diagnosis
    and which are not.


PACE Place works because our approach is grounded in three fundamental
truths.

  1. Children develop within a secure, primary relationship.  Although the
    staff of PACE Place has expertise in child development and clinical
    diagnoses, we will never be experts on your child.  Thus, the parent-child
    relationship is always pivotal to child progress.  Both parents provide
    base relationships that shape the development of an individual
    throughout life.  Early experiences with parents create a foundation of
    trust and security from which the child can explore and discover the world
    around them.  The relationship is vastly more complicated when the 
    child’s style of thinking is shaped by ASD.
  2. Human development is our guide.  Although the staff members of PACE
    have devoted their professional lives to understanding autism and
    related disabilities, their in-depth knowledge of human development
    provides a stronger framework for guiding children and their families.
    Most of the problem areas families describe can be found in typical
    development.  Thus, our knowledge of child development and family
    dynamics guides our thinking and influences our teaching techniques.
    Regulation, organization, and social connectedness are three powerful
    forces in human development.  There are developmental patterns, both
    progressive and debilitating, that unfold within these three areas.
    Individuals with ASD can get stuck in various stages and/or can deviate
    from the typical unfolding of these developmental patterns.  
  3. Parent-led interactions create the foundation of our family-centered
    model.  As with all children, we believe that children are the happiest,
    most secure, and most available for learning when the parent is in the
    lead.  Thus, our approach focuses on fortifying the parent’s resolve to be
    the driving force in the family.  A child should not be in charge of a family.
    A diagnosis should not be in charge of a child.  Our approach strives to
    find an appropriate balance between the needs of each family member.
    We believe that it is the responsibility of the parent to ensure that
    balance.  When the adult leads, the child can explore and discover rather
    than attempt to control and contain it.

Recalling Your Week

After Your Week

PACE Place: Family Immersion Week: Recalling Your Week

Written Report

During the week, each of the PACE Place professionals write notes

summarizing their observations and recommendations. Parents and other

family members are encouraged to write daily notes of their own. Putting

experiences into your own words is a powerful way to make the most of a

learning situation.

The way we live has changed! We developed the feeling that we could trust

our own judgment again. Daryl, CA (Parent)

 

Please click here to read more comments from previous PACE Place families.

Video

 

At PACE Place, cameras and microphones are located in the kitchen, living

room, and recorded. At the end of the week you will be sent home with the

original DVD(s) for your review. PACE keeps none of the recordings. You will

have the only copy. You can record as little or as much as you wish.

Adventures in the community are often captured through photos from a

camera phone. Families who wish additional recordings or higher quality

images in the community are encouraged to bring their own cameras and

video cameras.

Our son likes to watch the DVD. It brings back good memories for him.

We provided a copy to our home therapist. It is a shot in the arm for me as a

parent. It complements our report. David, WA (Parent)

Post-Week Consultation

 

When your family returns home, the PACE Place professionals are available to

consult with you by telephone and/or email. Once we have all gotten to know

each other, it can be very powerful for families to chat with a member of the

PACE staff to get fresh ideas, a new perspective, or review concepts

discussed during the week’s visit. We feel very connected to families during

their week at PACE Place and we love to hear of your triumphs and wish to

continue to support future challenges.

 

For the first month upon your family’s return home, you may schedule two

telephone consultations with any member of the PACE Place staff for no fee.

We are committed to your continued success and we want to hear from you.

You may consult with whichever professional is best suited for your question

or concern (i.e., Kathi Calouri, Eric Hamblen, or Steve Ryan). After your first

two free telephone consultations, you will be able to continue to consult with

the PACE staff, pro-rated appropriately at the following rates:

 

Katherine Calouri, Ph.D.: $120 per hour

Eric Hamblen: $120 per hour

Steve Ryan, MA, CCC: $120 per hour

 

Many families have a relationship with a consultant in their home communities

and they often continue working with that person after their visit to PACE

Place. Any member of the PACE Place staff would be happy to collaborate

with a

family’s educational team or local consultant.

 

In additional to telephone consultations, Kathi, Eric, and Steve are dedicated

emailers and are happy to respond to any email thoughts, concerns, or

questions you may have. If your question cannot be handled appropriately by

email, a telephone consultation will be scheduled and billed at the above

rates.

Parent Expectations

The week at PACE Place is exciting, exhausting, inspiring, exhausting, fun,

exhausting, terrifying, exhausting, and did we mention exhausting. Most

families tell us how surprised they were by how drained they felt by the intensity

of the week. You are expected to think about your child and your entire family in

a fresh way that is very intense. You will be with one of the PACE Place

professionals for approximately five hours per day. The schedule typically ends

by 2:30 pm, giving your family time to relax, reflect, and renew your energy.

Upon seeing their schedule, many families have expressed their surprise that

they were “finished” at 2:30 pm. At the end of each day, most families have

expressed their gratitude that they were finished at 2:30 pm and free to process

five hours of experiences and discussions.

 

To fully benefit from the PACE Place experience, families must be prepared to

challenge every limitation they believe about their child and their family.

Together we can explore new ways for your family members to learn about

themselves and each other.

 

Both parents must come for the entire week. Parental unity is important to your

child’s progress and to your ability to support each other. If you are a single

parent, you may bring another adult with you who will be an emotional support

to you and your child.

 

Parents are asked to not bring nannies, grandparents, or home therapists. The

PACE Place program is family-centered and parent-driven. The goal of the

Immersion Model is to empower parents to be the primary force in their child’s

development. Then, parents will be able to share their expertise of their own

child with their support systems when they get home. If you have concerns

about this policy, you may discuss possible exceptions with Dr. Calouri prior to

your stay.

The way we live has changed! We developed the feeling that we could trust our

own judgment again. Daryl, CA (Parent)

 

Child Expectations

The week is meant to be fun for the whole family. The entire family helps

generate each day’s plan of activities and we are able to address a family’s

concerns in almost any environment. For example, if a family struggles with a

bossy, controlling child, those issues and behaviors can present themselves

in the home environment or during an outing. Or, if a child tends to withdraw

from social engagement, this tendency occurs in both the home and in the

community. Thus, each family picks activities that reflect their typical

opportunities at home and in their community. Portland has a lot to offer and

the PACE staff can guide your family’s learning while at a book store, the

Children’s Museum, or grocery shopping. So, from the child’s perspective,

this need not be a week of “therapy.” This is a week of adventures.

 

Despite the effort to create a fun, adventure-filled week, there is no doubt that

many of the children are challenged to their potential during the week at PACE

Place. Although the backdrop of the week is a series of family-friendly

activities, there can be some frustrating moments because we are addressing

your child’s areas of difficulty.

 

You are encouraged to bring your other children as it will help us better

understand your entire family system. Like “real life,” all of your children will

participate in the day’s activities as much as possible. Like many families

routinely practice, sometimes a “divide and conquer” strategy is employed to

optimize learning. We do not provide or arrange for child-care for your little

darlings.

 

Many siblings are grateful for the week’s experience at PACE Place. As often

is the case, siblings are expected to be very flexible, compensating for a non-

flexible sibling. Often siblings are extraordinarily compassionate and are

eager to help; they are thrilled to have an effective role with their brother or

sister. All too often, siblings are frustrated by the amount of time their parents

spend with their brother or sister and are relieved that some new strategies

may give their parents a better handle on the child with challenges and free up

time for the other children.

My son really enjoyed it. He really walked away feeling successful. No other

professionals made him feel successful except for PACE. It empowered him.

I had never heard our son say, “I can do it myself,” before that experience.

Theresa, CA (Parent)

 

Testimonials

Benefits

This was the single most important experience with our son that we have ever

had. CA (Parent)

 

Results! One of our sons changed in front of our eyes. He did things we’ve never

seen him do. John, WA (Parent)

 

I learned that my sons will not break. I don’t fell so stupid and actually feel

empowered to promote a better life for our kids. I understand the human psyche

more. Debra, MN (Parent)

 

Our son is more fun to be with, he is more interactive with us. Garret, CA (Parent)

 

 

With professional support from the PACE Place staff, family challenges can be

addressed that are often elusive in more traditional service models. This is

how previous PACE Place families have experienced the PACE Place

Immersion Model.

Immersion Defined:

They made teaching moments out of everything, everywhere we went. Even

buying tickets for the light rail. Getting out to places in the community was more

helpful than we ever imagined. James, MN (Parent)

 

Prior to this experience we were too busy “teaching,” but not having fun. Janet,

OR (Parent)

 

The PACE Place home was much more effective for our family than an office

setting. What is done in a clinical setting does not necessarily transfer to real

life. This was a field guide to transforming our sons. You can only do this by

applying theory to reality. Jeanie, MT (Parent)

 

The store experience was amazing. Alex is kind of a wanderer and does not pay

attention to his dad, so the ability to ‘third party’ this experience and work through

it was an exceptional learning moment. Joanne, WI (Parent)

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Testimonials

PACE Place: Family Immersion Week: Testimonials

 

 

PACE Place is the great equalizer, allowing each parent to contribute, learn, and develop a level of understanding based

on a uniquely shared experience. Previous PACE Place mothers have expressed their thoughts here.

Testimonials from Moms:

The first day we went to the grocery store and it became apparent as to what was not working for our family and we made

changes within the FIRST DAY that were helpful to my son. Jill, CA (Parent)

 

I learned that it was okay to put my foot down and allow my son to carry his own weight. Kristi, MN (Parent)

 

We took a walk in the nature preserve. He came in as one child and come out as another. Carol, CA (Parent)

 

 

PACE Place can be particularly empowering for fathers. Fathers who have attended PACE Place have made these

comments.

Testimonials from Dads:

The bike-riding was a huge success. My son did not want to get on the bike and Eric got that started. Then, we were able

to take it from there. It was the stepping stones that the week provided and the ability for us to implement that was our

measure of success. Joseph, OR (Parent)

 

It was amazing seeing the kids change. I enjoyed listening to Kathi and Eric explain what was going on with the kids…that

was a first. It empowered me to be more successful. Anthony, WI (Parent)

 

Don’t hold back. Be who you are as much as you can. Keep your eyes and ears open and learn all you can. Jerry, CA

(Parent)

Fees:

I remember thinking before we signed up for the week how much we were investing, and thinking afterward how quickly

could we get back to PACE Place. Peter, WA (Parent)

 

 

 

 

The PACE staff prides itself on maintaining effective working relationships with families and professionals by

demonstrating professional skills with an attitude of mutual respect. Here is what previous PACE Place families have

said about the PACE Place staff:

PACE Place Week

 

Three Professionals:

The combination of the three is the formula that seemed to work. They complement each other very well. Denise, CA

(Parent)

 

The key was the way the three of them complemented each other. Having just one would not have been as effective. It is

good that they split up the time. Charlie, ID (Parent)

 

They got a good handle on my son from the first day. They zeroed in on what he needed very, very quickly. Linda, WA

(Parent)

 

Before I went to PACE Place, I was a little worried about being judged. The staff had very non-judging personalities which

gave us hope right away. John, MN (Parent)

Kathi Calouri, Ph.D., Clinical Director:

Kathi is very down to earth and non-pretentious. She is easy to understand and quite brilliant. Matt, WI (Parent)

 

From Kathi I got a lot of tactical nitty-gritty that we use all the time. She supported me to have high expectations. She was

very level-headed. Jody, ID (Parent)

 

Kath is very warm and confident. Not your typical, cold professional. Trish, CA (Parent)

 

Kathi is very practical and goal-oriented. She is a problem solver. Kathi was very helpful in summing up the sessions.

She is very specific in her words. Melanie, NV (Parent)

 

Kathi is practical, intellectual, and positively in charge. She thinks out of the box. Phil, MN (Parent)

 

I felt the most comfortable with Kathi, her well-roundedness, ABA training, and her style of how she called out my son was

superb. Maria, CA (Parent)

 

I really felt Kathi’s human side and her compassion. Robin, MN (Parent)

Eric Hamblen, Program Director:

Eric was phenomenal in his ability to assimilate knowledge and various techniques and apply them to a child in the form

of play or experiences. Joshua, MT (Parent)

 

Eric has great intuition. He was able to provide a commentary as to what our daughter was doing. Her randomness

suddenly made sense. Laurie, CA (Parent)

 

Eric has an amazing way of assessing our son and what works for him. Eric has an intuitive way of working. He is

creative and playful. Robert, ID (Parent)

 

I was amazed by Eric’s ability to connect with kids. Eric has joy in his heart and confidence. His instincts are right on.

Jennifer, CA (Parent)

 

The bean bag area in the loft was a great moment. Eric really connected with our daughter in a way we never did before –

and she chased Eric down the stairs chanting ‘Eric’…and she is non-verbal. Shannon, MN (Parent)

 

Eric’s energy and passion are only outweighed by his ability to communicate the message to an audience in such a way

that you walk away with a skill you did not have that same day. Petro, MN (Parent)

 

My husband said that if they ever can clone someone, it should be Eric. Kate, AZ (Parent)

 

Eric has such an intuitive power. He connects well with anyone. Eric is great when he talks to you about the theory.

Daniel, IL (Parent)

Steve Ryan, M.A.,C.C.C., Speech-Language Pathologist:

Steve has an uncanny ability to read the face of a child and know when to change his plan and when to stick with it. Tim,

MN (Parent)

 

Steve does everything so easily. You never feel like you are “working.” Rebecca, OR (Parent)

 

I loved Steve’s connection, almost as a big brother. Trevor, NJ (Parent)

 

Steve is very low-key. We loved his goofiness. Kathryn, CA (Parent)

 

Steve took us to the grocery store. Our son was so dysregulated that day and Steve’s method of touch in the store made

such a visible difference. It made me trust Steve after that. Amanda, ID (Parent)

 

Steve is really good at comprehending the limits of our child. He knew exactly where to sit without sitting an inch too

close. Scott, CA (Parent)

 

 

With professional support, parents can explore new ways for family members to learn about themselves and each other.

Please read what previous PACE Place families have said about their experience.

Expectations for the Parents:

The way we live has changed! We developed the feeling that we could trust our own judgment again. Daryl, CA (Parent)

 

At the store, we learned that as parents we did not have to suffer. Our son learned that he could keep it together when

frustrated, which was a first. By the time Friday rolled around, we went to the museum (our son’s favorite place) which was

closed and we had techniques to solve the stress. Karen, NY (Parent)

 

Every day seemed like it was somewhat relaxed and fun, but by the end of the day there were significant learning. Mike, CA

(Parent)

 

We are not angry at our son any more because of the autism. Amy, NJ (Parent)

 

We learned so much about why things are happening and how to change them through our actions and behaviors. Erinn,

ID (Parent)

 

 

Although the backdrop of the week is a series of family-friendly activities, because we are addressing your child’s areas

of difficulty, there can be some frustrating moments. These families have shared their memories.

Expectations for the Child and Siblings:

My son really enjoyed it. He really walked away feeling successful. No other professionals made him feel successful

except for PACE. It empowered him. I had never heard our son say, “I can do it myself,” before that experience. Theresa,

CA (Parent)

 

We learned to not constantly be a hawk over our son. He can do things for himself. Life got easier. Judith, OR (Parent)

 

Our son is now much more adventuresome than he was prior to the week. Jack, WI (Parent)

 

It was amazing how fast they absorbed our child. They made our daughter feel good as well. George, WA (Parent)

 

 

The family drives the week’s target areas with our guidance and suggestions. Previous PACE Place families comment on

their goals and share their perspectives.

Typical Family Targets:

Make that list! Think long and hard about what problems you want so solve – what makes you cry, what makes you

frustrated, what halts your day. Carolyn, NV (Parent)

 

We sent a list of what we wanted to achieve and we consistently went back to that list throughout the week. Terry, NM

(Parent)

 

Don’t worry. They will make you feel comfortable. Do not worry about mistakes you may make, just be honest about your

issues and problems. Paul, MN (Parent)

 

Do not hold anything back. Open up and tell all. Elizabeth, CA (Parent)

 

 

The full days help families immerse themselves into the therapeutic lifestyle without feeling rushed. Other families

express themselves regarding a full week of professional support.

One Week:

It was non-stop therapy, but it felt like playing with our daughter. Todd, ID (Parent)

 

I really appreciated the schedule. We had time to ourselves prior to the start of the day, during lunch, and in the evenings.

The pace of the day worked for us. Michelle, OH (Parent)

 

Go right away and do not let other therapies or knowledge get in the way. Kris, CA (Parent)

 

 

The PACE Place home is comfortable and fully operational. Previous PACE Place families comment on the

accommodations of PACE Place.

PACE Place Home:

I wish some of the vacation homes I’ve rented were as well equipped and comfortable as PACE Place. Samuel, MI

(Parent)

 

When I walked in the front door, I said, “Bless you,” out loud. Danni, CA (Parent)

 

After your week at PACE Place, you will receive a written report and a DVD of the experiences videotaped. Families have

found these tools useful upon their return home.

Written Reports and Recording Your Week:

Once a week my husband and I sit down with a glass of wine and re-read the report together, reminding ourselves of the

progress our son is making and areas we can focus on for the upcoming week. Vivian, FL (Parent)

 

Our son likes to watch the DVD. It brings back good memories for him. We provided a copy to our home therapist. It is a

shot in the arm for me as a parent. It complements our report. David, WA (Parent)

FAQ

1. Why can’t you come to our home and work with us here?

Our main goal is for your life and your child’s life to become easier and more
rewarding.  Empowerment is a gradual process that builds momentum as it
grows.  PACE Place provides a safe, distraction free context in which that process
can begin.  The power of the Family Immersion Model lies in the absence of
familiar routines and structures for everyone in your family.   The absence of
routine means that every decision you make will require more thoughtful
deliberation.  The day at PACE Place is not structured by regularly scheduled
appointments and commitments.  The immersion experience allows your family
a full week to think only of your family and how you relate to one another.   There
are no phones to answer, appointments to keep, or lawns to mow.    
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2. My spouse is resistant to coming to PACE Place.  How can I help my family
come to a decision about coming to Oregon?
The decision to visit PACE Place is an important family decision.  Whether it is a
spouse or a sibling who is expressing doubts, we understand that it is ultimately
family decision to commit to the experience.  It is a commitment that requires
time and costs money.  We do not take this concern lightly.  We encourage family
members who are considering a visit to talk with other families who have been
through the experience before.   We have many parents who have graciously
given us permission to pass along their phone numbers and email addresses to
families who are struggling with the same questions and concerns that they
struggled with prior to their visit.  Please contact Dr. Calouri for a list of references.
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3. Should my other children attend?
You are encouraged to bring your other children as it will help us better
understand your entire family system.  Like “real life,” all of your children will
participate in the day’s activities as much as possible.  Like many families
routinely practice, sometimes a “divide and conquer” strategy is employed to
optimize learning.  We do not provide or arrange for child-care.

Many siblings are grateful for the week’s experience at PACE Place.  They are
encouraged to contribute to the learning process by adding ideas for activities
and interactions.  Siblings have often learned to compensate for their brother or
sister and teaching them to not over-assist can be pivotal.  As often is the case,
siblings are expected to be very flexible, compensating for a non-flexible sibling.
Often siblings are extraordinarily compassionate and are eager to help; they are
thrilled to have an effective role with their brother or sister.  All too often, siblings
are frustrated by the amount of time their parents spend with their brother or
sister and are relieved that some new strategies may give their parents a better
handle on the child with challenges and free up time for the other children.  
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4. Why is PACE Place so expensive?
The PACE staff spends time before each family’s visit preparing for the week-
long immersion experience.  The PACE professionals spend 25 hours of direct
time with each family over the week.  During the week, the PACE team meets for
several hours without the family, thinking about the family’s needs and planning
for each day’s consultation.  The PACE professionals prepare a comprehensive
report.  In addition, the family’s week-long housing is included in the total cost.    

Many families report that after their week at PACE Place they have reduced their
professional support at home due to new found confidence in their ability to work
with their child.  Some families increase outside services with professionals, with
renewed vision of the needs of the child/family.  All families go home better
equipped to interact and manage the services that wrap around their
child/family.   With a better understanding of the needs of their child and family,
most families believe that their money is then spent more wisely.

PACE Place Customer Satisfaction Results:  The 2006 customer satisfaction
results for PACE Place produced a significantly positive result with a Net
Promoter Score of 94%. This score suggests a significantly high level of
customer satisfaction.  Clients were asked to rate the value of the PACE Place
professional staff, the value of PACE Place Week, and the care that customers
received within their experience at PACE Place.  The client survey results show
that: – 95% of surveyed clients strongly agreed that PACE Place Week exceeded
their expectations, – 97% of surveyed clients strongly agreed that PACE Place
professional staff has the expertise to meet the needs of their child and family, –
90% of surveyed clients strongly agreed that they witnessed significant results
during their stay at PACE Place Week, – 97% of surveyed clients strongly agreed
that the setting at PACE Place far exceeds the traditional clinical setting, and –
90% of surveyed clients strongly agreed that they could continue what they have
learned at PACE Place Week back home.
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5. Where can we get the money to come to PACE Place?
The vast majority of families have paid for PACE Place through their own private
funds.  Occasionally, medical insurance has reimbursed a family.  On a rare
occasion, a family has received state funding to pay for PACE Place in part or in
full.  A few families have received support from their local community through
fund-raisers (e.g., golf tournament fund-raiser, spaghetti dinner fund-raiser,
church donation).
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6. Can we bring our nanny?
Parents are asked NOT to bring nannies, grandparents, or home therapists.  The
PACE Place program is family-centered and parent-driven.  The goal of the
Immersion Model is to empower parents to be the primary force in their child’s
development.  Then, parents will be able to share their expertise of their own
child with their support systems when they get home.  If you have concerns about
this policy, you may discuss possible exceptions with Dr. Calouri prior to your
stay.
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7. Will I be able to do what I learn at PACE Place when I get back home?
PACE Place is a unique immersion model of service designed to help increase
your confidence and competence in a home environment.  With professional
support from the PACE Place staff, family challenges that are often elusive in
more traditional service models can be addressed. Guiding families within a
home environment and within the community, focusing on “real-life situations,”
allows the PACE Place team to develop strategies that empower parents and
better ensures carry-over into home life.
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8. Is my child too old for PACE Place Immersion?
9. Is my child too young for PACE Place Immersion?
10. I have a very beginning level child.  Is PACE Place right for us?
11. I have a very skilled child.  Is PACE Place right for us?
PACE Place does not provide a program for your child’s development nor do we
have age limits or skill limits. Our goal is to allow a person’s development to
unfold and expand within the safety of the family.  With the span of human
development as our guide and with the goal of attaining a higher quality of life for
the entire family, we have found that the immersion model is powerful for a very
wide range of families.  Striving for a higher quality of life for each member of your
family is a desire that every parent shares, regardless of the age or skill set of the
child.   Families with children between the age 1 and 29 years have experienced
the immersion experience.  While certain phases of development are more
sensitive than others, personal growth and learning continue throughout the
lifespan.  
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12. What does a typical day look like at PACE Place?
If your family life typically involves grocery shopping with the kids and trips to the
park, the PACE professional will participate in those activities, guiding you to
make those regular activities more engaging and successful for your family.  Or, if
your family typically spends much of your daily life at home, baking, doing chores,
and playing games, your treatment team will join you in those activities and help
you determine unique ways to incorporate your child’s objectives into the things
you already love to do.  If, like many families, you are uncertain what to do with
your child, we will help in the creation of activities that can be easily replicated
when you return home.  Whatever your needs, the PACE team will support you to
expand on successful activities, explore new activities, and discover new
approaches to activities your family has struggled with in the past.
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13. What will we learn at PACE Place?
Before each family’s visit, we ask them to describe the top five priorities they
would like to think about, discuss, and work on during their week at PACE Place.
Thus, the family drives the week’s target areas with our guidance and
suggestions.  We approach each target with the belief that we can make an
improvement in every challenge presented to us by the family within the week;
each family returns with answers on how to live a higher quality of life.

One of the strongest indicators of successful intervention is how competently a
family is able to address a child’s goals and incorporate effective strategies
within their daily lives.  PACE Place is a unique immersion model of service
designed to help increase your confidence and competence in a home
environment.  With professional support from the PACE Place team, family
challenges that are often elusive in more traditional service models can be
addressed.
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14. I feel very vulnerable and uncomfortable about being under a microscope
at PACE Place.  How have other parents managed this intense experience?
We appreciate how stressful this intense learning environment can be for all
families.  Some parents prefer to watch the PACE professionals engage with
their children and learn from observing.  Some parents prefer to demonstrate the
strategies they typically use with their children and then ask for feedback from the
PACE staff.  Some parents learn best by talking.  Some parents learn best
through action.  The three PACE professionals treat each family with respect and
honor everyone’s learning style.  We guide families with compassion.  Dr. Calouri
can provide you with a list of previous PACE Place families for you to contact.
They would be happy to describe their experience with the three professionals at
PACE Place.
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15. How can I make the most out of my PACE Place experience?
You will be asked to describe your family’s top five priorities for your week at
PACE Place.  Please complete this paperwork carefully, clearly considering the
areas you would like to address.  At the end of each day, parents should reflect
on which experiences in the day were the most helpful.  Then, with each new day
you should clearly guide the professionals toward what is the most effective
learning style for you.

To fully benefit from the PACE Place experience, families must be prepared to
challenge every limitation they believe about their child and their family.  Together
we can explore new ways for your family members to learn about themselves and
each other.
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16. Can you schedule a playdate for my child so that we can work on peer
interaction?
This is perhaps the most difficult area to work on at PACE Place.  It would be
nearly impossible to find an appropriate match for a child during their week at
PACE Place.  Even if a great peer match was available, at best it has a “blind
date” feel to it.  That is, the two children have never met before and can’t be
expected to forge a friendship in their short time together.  We have addressed
difficulties with peer interaction in largely two ways at PACE Place.

First, it is often helpful to plan outings to child-friendly environments such as the
Children’s Museum or OMSI.  In these environments, we can practice turn-taking,
sharing, learning from observation, waiting, and a variety of other peer related
issues.

Second, very often the child’s areas of difficulty while playing with peers are the
same areas of difficulty the child demonstrates while playing with adults.  For
example, a child may have a tendency to be bossy, inflexible, disengaged, or
poorly regulated.  These difficulties may arise during play with peers and play
with adults.  Thus, while at PACE Place the child will have many opportunities to
work through these areas of difficulty with the adults (the parents and the
clinicians).  The child will first make progress in these areas of difficulty with the
adults.  Then, the strategies that proved to be helpful during adult play can be
transferred to peer play once home.
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17. What methodology do you use at PACE Place?
PACE Place does not teach a program.  PACE Place teaches a life-style. We
focus on strategies that best fit the child and family, rather than any particular
treatment model.  As many have experienced, our approach is focused on
guiding competence within the family.  We focus on exploration, which leads to
the discovery of effective strategies specific to the parenting styles within each
family.  This insures greater success of carry over and developmental
progression.  We draw on the most progressive information in the field and break
it down to practical day-to-day application that parents can readily recognize and
apply to change their family’s future for the better.
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18. My spouse cannot take off a full week from work.  Can my spouse come
for only part of the week?  Can I come without my spouse?
We strongly urge both parents to come for the entire week.  Parental unity is
important to your child’s progress and to your ability to support each other. Unlike
more traditional service delivery models, PACE Place provides a family with the
rare opportunity for both parents to listen to the same information, at the same
time.  This gives both parents the opportunity to ask questions, share their own
perspectives, and filter the discussions through their understanding of their
unique relationship with their child.  This is a very powerful difference between
PACE Place and other services.  With traditional hourly therapy sessions, one
parent usually attends therapy appointments and conferences while the other
parent cares for the child or goes to work.  Thus, one parent typically carries the
burden of having new information that must be disseminated to the other parent.
Conversely, one parent can often feel disconnected from the child and uncertain
what his/her role can be.  PACE Place is the great equalizer, allowing each parent
to contribute, learn, and develop a level of understanding based on a uniquely
shared experience.

It is not recommended that one parent attend for only part of the week.  Imagine
trying to decide if you should watch the first half of a movie or the last half of a
movie.  Neither would make sense.  The same is true of PACE Place.  If a parent
only attends the beginning of the week, he/she will not have the opportunity to see
strategies and ideas manipulated to success.  If a parent only attends the end of
the week, she/he will not have the opportunity to see why the strategies and ideas
were generated; the exploring process will have been missed.

The schedule at PACE Place is full, with five hours each day spent with one of the
PACE professionals.  However, the PACE professionals are typically done by 
2:30 pm each afternoon, leaving the family with time on their own in the afternoon
and evening.  This time can be well spent by families, practicing some of the new
strategies discovered.  Family members are allowed time to relax and reflect on
the day.  Parents often describe the rare opportunity to talk with each other,
support each other, and explore together.  However, we fully respect that one or
both parents may need to use some of this time to touch base with work.

Additionally, not every moment with the PACE Place professionals need include
both parents.  Especially toward the end of the week, parents often try to replicate
“real life” with one parent unavailable, leaving one parent with the child/children.
Thus, it is possible for a working parent to spend some of the day and evening
hours attending to work responsibilities.

If possible, we encourage parents to step away from work entirely and focus
exclusively on the family.  However, if that is not realistic, we understand that
some parents may need to address some work responsibilities.  If one parent
simply cannot get away from work, we would be happy to accommodate a family
with only one parent in attendance.
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Benefits

We intend for every family to leave PACE Place with a clear vision of how to address each of the family’s goals. These goals are written by the family and provide the impetus for the week’s focus.

We intend for each family to have a better understanding of how the diagnosis of one (or more) family member impacts the entire family system. We recognize that for very good reasons, when a family member receives a diagnosis of any type of delay, parenting strategies can be heavily influenced by the parents’ uncertainty about how best to guide their child. We intend to help parents assess the pattern of development unfolding within the child and determine the obstacles to development. Our goal is to help parents review their parenting style and parenting strategies and discover their own vision for raising their children.

We intend to help families discover a higher quality of life, without the diagnosis over riding all aspects of their personal and professional lives. We intend for parents to remain or become the most influential force in the development of their child. We want families to rediscover the joy of parenting, not just the responsibility.

We wish to inspire families to think about their children in a new way, nurturing their strengths and supporting their challenges.